Accept the Change Completely
I want you to realize that you need to convince yourself that you really want to change. Understanding this, is the first phase to welcoming change in your life. By skipping this step, we maximize the potential of sabotaging ourselves.
The Lies We Tell Ourselves
Sometimes we like to tell ourselves that we don’t have enough discipline, but that is seldom the case. Telling ourselves that we do not possess the discipline, is a sabotating mechanism to enable laziness to take control. When we stop to think about it, it is a perfect excuse. By refusing to believe that you can change, we start accepting the unacceptable.
You Need to Truly Believe that What You Do Matters
Wasting my youth is one of the things I fear the most in life. Maybe that is why I face so much procrastination daily, because I know that every action matters. Worry and procrastination can only be dealt with decisiveness.
I know it sounds cliché, but certainty is key to develop confidence in what you do.
Fear Will Stop You if You Let it
It does not matter what others say, atleast in my case, fear has killed more dreams than courage ever will.
Maybe You Do Not Lack Willpower
Sometimes what we lack is not willpower, what truly prevent us from attaining success in life is simply fear. There are many types of fear, including the fear of success.
Fear of success can actually be one of the most frightening, because in this case, you would have to cope with living at a high level. You would have to manage other people’s expectations of you, and even worse, of yourself.
Watch Your Self Talk or You Might Never Be Able to Follow a Schedule
The way you talk to yourself it’s the way you treat yourself really. Too often we talk negatively to ourselves in a frustrated attempt of self motivation. A schedule might prove to be perplexing to follow with this approach;
The way you to talk to yourself daily, will either result in a “screw it moment” or a breakthrough.
How Can I Gain Confidence in What I Do in a Routine?
How will you ever know that you’re not wasting precious time?
What you really do need is a series of small wins. Results are sources of confidence.
One mechanism of your subconscious mind uses to gauge self-efficacy, is measuring what you were able to do in the past.
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Visualize What Would Likely Happen if You Stuck with It
The trick to be successful with a routine is to believe. Believing that you can accomplish your plans is the best incentive to nurture to your drive.
In order to rise motivation levels, picture in your mind what is the perfect day for you. With a clear vision, visualize how would you feel if you were to accomplish it.
Locate the Fear by Being Aware of Your Thoughts
A lot of times we can disengage from toxic thoughts by simply de-attaching ourselves from them. Meditation can tremendously help with this.
One of the focus of meditation is exactly this. Meditation is a constant awareness of the flow of your thoughts, without attachment.
I know we do not always have the time to meditate. That is why you need to be extra careful your thoughts. Engage in active thinking, keep yourself as mindful as possible.
Know that Information Alone Does Not Change Behaviour
Not too long ago, I read a superb book: Tiny habits, by B.J Fogg
One thing he said that deeply caught my interest, was a piece of knowledge that contradicted by beliefs at the time. This line:
“Information alone cannot change behavior”
That was a big clash of paradigms. I thought that by knowing more about the problem, I would solve it. I belivied that noticing negative impact would demotivate me towards self destructive behaviour. With B.J Fogg book, I came to discover that I was fooling myself.
You Cannot Discipline Yourself to Follow a Schedule by Being More Informed
This leads to the next point:
You cannot just consume more information to change your discipline levels. A change of focus will provide better results.
Accept the fact that you cannot do everything at once. Making drastic lifestyle changes in a day is unlikely to work longterm.
Harvest the power of focus, realize that your focus is limited, Resolve to aim your focus at a specific location that will yield the most return on investment.
Understand that You Are NOT the Problem
You cannot entirely control thought generation. Stop blaming yourself as it will only cause more problems.
By thinking that you are the problem, shame will contaminate your day. Toxic shame is detrimental to self discipline, thus making it exponentially harder to follow a schedule.
Your Schedule Does Not Allow Leisure Time
One of my mistakes when I was engaging in the use of a schedule was that I didn’t accommodate time for leisure. This was a fatal mistake.
I thought the perfect week would be a hundred percent productive. Boy I was wrong; days were a constant stress.
All Work and No Play Makes Jack Hate Schedules
There is a threshold for what one can accomplish on a given day. After some time working, productivity starts to plummet, meaning that you have to put more time to get the same output.
This is especially true for creative work. That is why I always allocate time for creative work early in the day, when willpower is at maximum charge.
Work Hard, Rest Harder
Understand that you need to enjoy recreative activities every day. Recreation will actually allow for greater productivity. I know this is a core change in your mindset, but striving to be perfect everyday is a recipe for burnout. Been there, done that.
Learn to Cope with Mistakes
If you are a perfectionist, then you are going to struggle with a schedule. A rigid schedule will not allow for mistakes;
As soon as you make a tiny mistake, chances are that you are going to rapidly give up.
A Key Factor to Following a Schedule Successfully is Dealing with “Yuck It” Moments
I used to be a big proponent of schedules, but unfortunately I always find myself in the perfectionist side of the spectrum.
The rigidness that comes along with the schedule was enabling my tiny little mistakes to rapidly demotivate me through the day.
Even though I was working hard and getting results. Not being able to complete a certain task on time was crushing my motivation. That was not healthy for me, so I quit.
Nobody Should Strive to Be Perfect All the Time
Nobody is the same, everyone has struggles, and that is why I believe that a schedule is not for everyone. A lot of people would derive greater benefits by using a flexible system to manage their lives.
What worked for me is system that is outcome focused, I call it the goal focused list.